If you are new on the journey of recovery, you might be struggling with the dreaded question: “Hey, do you want a drink?”
In those first days of sobriety, that question can be terrifying. When you’re out at a social gathering or work event, or even a date or night with friends, the question is bound to come up. Maybe you’re afraid of slipping or maybe you just don’t want everyone in your social or work network to know you’ve quit (which is totally valid, because it’s none of their business), but either way, it’s good to practice a few responses for when you’re put in that situation.
I reached out to my amazing support system of recovering people earlier last week because I wanted to make something fun to celebrate my recovery anniversary, and they didn’t let me down. We talked about remembering the terror of refusing a drink at a party or gathering and wondering if everyone knew our dirty little secrets. We laughed (yes, laughed … eventually you will laugh again!) about how much changes as you grow in your recovery, and shared different responses for that guy at the party who just won’t let it go and keeps offering you a cocktail!
I loved the responses so much that I put together the following video to help you out if you’re newly sober and wondering what you say to the dreaded question, “Hey, do you want a drink?”
Megan Peters is a blogger and photographer based in Kansas City, where she lives with her two kids, husband and recovery puppy. Megan is passionate about breaking the stigma of people with addiction, and writes about her experience as a young mom in long term recovery. You can read more about Megan on her website, www.crazybananas.com or contact her at email@example.com.